As summer comes to a close, and parents are helping their children transition to go back to school, a common concern of parents is separation: Will my child be able to separate? Will the teacher understand his/her needs? The first day of school brings a mixture of emotions for both parents and children. I wanted to share some helpful and timely tips from Nancy Schulman, head of the Early Learning Center at Avenues: The World School, former longtime director of the renowned 92nd Street Y Nursery School, and co-author of several parenting books, to help ease separation anxiety and make the first day of school a positive experience:
- ESTABLISH GOOD BEDTIME AND MORNING ROUTINES
- REVIEW TEACHERS NAMES AT HOME
- READ BOOKS TO YOUR CHILD ABOUT BEGINNING SCHOOL
- BE ON TIME FOR ARRIVAL AND DISMISSAL
- TURN YOUR CELL PHONE OFF
- CONVEY A POSITIVE ATTITUDE TOWARD SCHOOL—SMILE!
- GREET TEACHERS IN A FRIENDLY MANNER
- POINT OUT THEIR COAT HOOKS AND CUBBIES
- TELL YOUR CHILD WHERE YOU WILL BE AND BE THERE
- ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR CHILD’S FEELINGS (“I know it’s hard…you’ll be O.K”)
- DURING ARRIVAL AND DISMISSAL –FOCUS ON YOUR CHILD. GIVE THEM EXTRA INDIVIDUAL ATTENTION AND QUIET PLAY TIME AT HOME AFTERWARDS
- SAY A SHORT GOODBYE BUT DON’T WAIT FOR A RESPONSE
- WAIT TO SOCIALIZE WITH OTHER PARENTS WHEN YOU ARE OUTSIDE THE CLASSROOM
- COMMUNICATE ANY SPECIAL CONCERNS TO THE TEACHERS
- BE CONFIDENT IN YOUR CHILDREN—THEY CAN DO THIS!
- TALK ABOUT YOUR CHILDREN IN FRONT OF THEM
- ASK YOUR CHILD’S PERMISSION TO LEAVE
- BRING CAMERAS AND VIDEOS ON THE FIRST DAY-FOCUS ON THE MOMENT
- HAVE MORE THAN ONE ADULT BRING YOUR CHILD
- DON’T CARRY YOUR CHILD INTO SCHOOL
- OVER SCHEDULE YOUR CHILD AFTER SCHOOL
- FEEL GUILTY – YOU ARE GIVING THEM A GIFT!
I was not compensated for publishing this list and/or post. I was provided the article and since I agree/support the tips from Nancy Schulman, I wanted to share them on my blog.